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My Last Day in Hawaii Before This Sacramento Realtor Goes Home

my last day in Hawaii

Families and children at Magic Sands Beach, Kailua-Kona.

Spending my last day in Hawaii is always a bit sad because I know I am leaving the island. There are people who go stir crazy on an island and can’t wait to get off, but I’m not one of those. It’s such a place of serenity and inner peace. Not to mention, this time I’m leaving our home behind. It’s different. There is nobody following me to make sure all the lights are turned off, the doors are locked and the security alarm is armed. By this evening, I will be 2,400 miles away.

At least I know when I’m coming back. I have a home here now to return to. This is supposed to make it easier for me to leave. But, I’ve never owned a vacation home before. It’s a bit weird to own two homes. Rentals yes, but not two residences. Well, there was that house in Mexico but I never lived in it. I mention this to our new housekeeper. She had to tell me to bring in our outdoor patio cushions before I go. I have arranged for her to clean our house the day before our next arrival date. And again, before I come for my winter residency.

The best way, I figured, to spend my last day in Hawaii was to go to the beach. I wrote about the Kahulu’u Beach Park earlier, as an alternative to Magic Sands Beach, but this time I decided to visit Magic Sands. It’s always a bit crowded. This time I parked closer to La’aloa Drive and walked north toward Magic Sands Beach. I discovered a small path next to a lava wall and wandered down.

my last day in Hawaii

A path south of Magic Sands Beach led to these two snorkelers.

There, I discovered two snorkelers in the water without anybody else around. Looks like a snorkeling paradise to me. No kids screeching or banging their boogie boards into you. No splashing water into your air hose.

my last day in Hawaii

Snorkeling beach is north of Magic Sands Beach and past the Kapu.

I am a person who enjoys solitude. I can be around other people, appreciate their company and interaction, but I need down-time for myself. Just to be quiet. People who meet me think I am very gregarious, outgoing and a real people-person but that kind of behavior is only available in limited quantities. In fact, I have a t-shirt that reads: Do I Look Like a People Person to You? Strangers approach me when I wear that shirt, and with a big smile on their face make an unsolicited announcement to me, as though I am cognizant of what my shirt says, when I am not. They stop me on the street and say YES. Yes, you do. It always catches me off guard.

I say, well, you’re wrong. And walk away.

Much of my two weeks in Hawaii have been spent lining up new listings in Sacramento. I have plenty of listing inspections scheduled upon my return that I won’t have time to miss Hawaii all that much. Although, last night a seller I had been speaking to about meeting and selling her home in South Land Park sent me an email. She talked about her friends and what happened when she mentioned she is selling. And you’ll never guess what, she says, they referred me to the most wonderful real estate agent!

I stared at that email. What? Am I in public service and don’t know it. Chopped liver? What’s the deal? This makes no sense. Real estate does not always make sense. People don’t often look outside of themselves; too wrapped up in their own worlds.

But you know what does make sense, keeping my lips zipped and knowing when not to speak. I am in an escrow with an insane agent, primarily unsupervised to say the least. I have a lot of escrows right now, and it could be anyone of those, but it’s not. When the agent said to me, I am doing the best that I can, I was very tempted to say the agent has made that disappointing position painfully clear throughout the entire ordeal. It’s not a nice thing to say, though, even if it’s true. So, I don’t.

my last day in Hawaii

Magic Sands Beach is a sugar white beach north of La’aloa in Kailua Kona

There is no need to say unkind things to people. It serves no purpose. The truth is painful enough for most people to handle.

The people I’ve met in Kailua-Kona are all, without fail, some of the nicest people I’ve ever met in my life. They have no agenda. They are friendly, warm and accepting. Maybe because we’re all on an island and in this together. There are 185,000 people who live on Big Island. Aunties and Uncles, who aren’t related and a bunch who are. It’s almost like the outpouring of friendship from people in Alaska, except it’s not so cold.

I spent my last day in Hawaii deciding that now, more than ever, I need to make more of an effort to be kinder to others. That’s a worthwhile goal. Well, unless they want to answer my t-shirt. Aloha!

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